I Am Learning...
4/8/20252 min read
Life is a journey of unlearning old patterns and embracing new truths. Some lessons come gently, others crash into you like waves. But with every breath, I’m reminded—I’m still learning. Here’s what life has been teaching me lately:
I am learning… saying “Yes” all the time leads to burnout. I’m tired of being tired.
I am learning… I’m not disqualified if I fall. With every breath I take, the Master qualifies me. That’s set in stone and nonnegotiable.
I am learning… no one is truly going to feel sorry for me, regardless of where I come from. Come hell or high water, I MUST keep going. I may go 70mph today and 0.5mph tomorrow, but quitting isn’t optional.
I am learning… when to stay and when to walk away. If I’m lingering in a situation or relationship after it’s served its purpose, I’m not just delaying myself—I’m holding everyone else up, too. It’s like sitting at a stop sign waiting for the light to turn green. Read that again.
I am learning… people are going to let me down in one way or another. Forgive quickly—we’re all on borrowed time.
I am learning… if someone doesn’t check on me every day, it’s okay. I’ll check on them if they cross my mind. We’re all navigating life the best we can. Even strong shoulders need support sometimes.
I am learning… some people won’t like me simply because of who I’m connected to. It’s nothing I’ve done. That’s a them problem, not mine.
I am learning… the thoughts and opinions of others are just that: theirs. At the end of the day, my decisions are mine. I refuse to let others live their life through me.
I am learning… as a non-confrontational person, the hard conversations are necessary. Avoiding them only makes them harder. I ask myself: am I seeking growth or just venting frustration? That answer shapes everything.
I am learning… time is precious. The older I get, the faster it moves. It’s time to be intentional—with my energy, with my love, with my presence.
I am learning… family dynamics change, and that’s okay. It’s not my job to be the peacemaker. I’ll keep my heart clean, my hands open, and my boundaries firm. Love doesn’t always require proximity.
I am learning… it’s okay to ask for help. I’m strong, yes, but strength also looks like vulnerability. I wasn’t meant to carry it all alone.
I am learning… society’s timeline is a lie. Graduate college at 15? Married by 20? Retired by 30? Stop it. That’s not real life. I’ve stopped beating myself up for not hitting fake milestones. Comparison kills joy—and dreams.
I am learning… that gut feeling? That’s the Holy Spirit. Trust it. He is leading me, always.
I don’t have it all figured out, and maybe I never will. But I’m giving myself permission to grow, to rest, to fall, to rise—and most of all, to keep learning. Because that’s what this journey is all about.
I have learned… and I’m still learning...
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